Have you ever received a message from a potential match on an online dating site that has blown you away, but you are not sure how to open an online dating conversation with them? Or got a message that has made you delete the match as quickly as possible?
There is an art to having a good online dating conversation, and we are here to help you have a nice chat.
What not to say!
- You have a beautiful smile.
- Great tits.
- Favorite drink?
Of course it depends what you are on the dating site for. If you are looking for a quick hook up, some of the above would probably be fine. But if you are looking for a more serious lasting relationship, try and be a little more serious, a little more witty, and a little more meaningful.
Ideas on what to say.
- Nice to meet you. I’m John, love to eat good food (plant based in particular) and appreciate old movies. Maybe you enjoy the same? I am hopeful!
- I know it sounds cliched, but you really do have a beautiful smile. I’m John, nice to meet you, hope we can chat a little?
- Hi Susan. Not messing around here, I really want to meet someone and fall in love. Could you be the one? I’m in the *** area, love to hike, enjoy movies and am particularly good at relaxing!
Basically, what we are suggesting is that you offer something of substance. The one word opening line can be boring, too suggestive and also, offensive and non committal. When you say a little more, it’s interesting, it shows you care and that you mean business. You don’t have to write an essay, and you should be relaxed, but try and be a little substantial, so the other party has something to respond to.
Online dating is fun and it works. It’s the best way to meet someone. If someone messages you, reply fairly quickly. Get into a meaningful conversation quickly, and then, suggest a meeting. Because nobody needs to waste time being single anymore thanks to online dating sites.